[DARE #14] - Unstuck Yet - What Went Wrong in 2014 - Melissa Llarena

[DARE #14] - Unstuck Yet - What Went Wrong in 2014 [DARE #14] Unstuck Yet? What Went Wrong in 2014? Its the last Sunday challenge of the year.  Last week I encouraged you to figure out ways to delegate yourself out of your current job to a better one it was a forward-looking task.Now, lets take one step back.Be warned: this one is uncomfortable for everyone but its about increasing our self-awareness.If we increase our self-awareness around the promises that we make to ourselvesIf we increase our self-awareness around the expectations we place on ourselvesIf we increase our self-awareness around why we have unfulfilled promises and unsatisfying expectationsthen we can get to the root of what it will really take to achieve our desires in the new year.So, dare #14 is for you to revisit your 2014 New Years resolutions.  Crack open that old notebook.Read your list.So did you eat healthier?Are your finances in a better place?Did you get that makeover?How did that career transition go or not go?Are you in a new home?Did your business grow?Did you launch your website?Are you happier today than when 2014 began?Think through your 2014 New Years resolutionsCross out the ones you got done and celebrate thoseHighlight the ones that you didnt get done in 2014The assignment is not to dwell on missed opportunities but to figure out why you left so much on the table.Its inevitable.Chances are (unless you had few or zero 2014 resolutions) that a few big ones did not happenChances are that year after year the same one is haunting youWhen looking at those unresolved dreams ask yourselfDid I ever really want that or was I trying to fulfill someone elses expectations?Was I really ready to sacrifice my sleep or family or [x] time for that goal?Did I continue to surround myself with unsupportive folks?How well equipped was I by myself to reach that goal?Was I setting myself up for disappointments by aiming for unrealistic goals?Was I seriously sober when I wrote that? (Just kidding, maybe?)Heres an example of one of my own 2014 unfulfilled goals:My goal was to have in place a do-it-yourself product so that when I birthed my twins I could continue to sustain my business while going from being a mom of one little boy to three boys.So how did I net out?I created this sales page.I sent a note to my database 1.5 months prior to going on maternity leave.I sold some packages.And then proceeded the sound of  crickets.I went on maternity leave for about four months.And instead of selling this DIY packetformer and new clients wanted more of me and my time rather than less of me and my timeIn other words, you guys didnt really want to do-it-yourselvesYou prefer a partnerAn accompliceA sound boardingA strategic career expert to give you confidence in knowing that you are doing everything right or who will help you think through what youre doing wrong based on years of experienceSo after reviewing this 2014 goalGetting to know hundreds of youAnd evaluating my anticipated 2015 best lifeMy plan is to offer higher-touch, even more tailored, deeper diving career coaching options to fewer clients in 2015Why?You want more of me and I want more of you.Let me explain.You want me to be accessible the night before your interviewYou want me to iron out your interview answersYou want me to uncover usable insights around your interviewersIn turn,I want to teach you the most effective ways to outsmart your competition based on your specific situationI want to show you how to work a room filled with prospective colleagues, leaders or direct reports while taking into account what it will take to get YOU comfortable in a stressful settingI want to meet you one-on-oneNow, there is no sales page (yet).My rationale behind my example is not to sell you on my brainchild instead I want to show you how you can think about your 2014 unrealized resolutions to inform your 2015 goals so that they will have a higher likelihood of success.Now, its time to reevaluate your 2014 resolutionsBe honest with yourselfUncover why so me never happenedAnd use those insights so that 2015 is more productive and fulfilling.Happy Sunday,Melissa